Category: I.E.C. Informed Behavior
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What If Substance Use Is An Attempt To Regulate A Dysregulated Nervous System?
By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author Most of us reached for something to change how we felt long before we understood what we were actually feeling. That distinction matters far more than we’ve been taught to believe. Because the conversation around substance use…
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The Body Knows: Interoception, IEC Environments, and Learning to Listen From the Inside Out
By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author Interoception is our ability to feel what’s happening within our own body- something many of us have learned to tune out without realizing it I was sitting with my dog the other day, holding him against my…
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The Other Side of IEC: Codependency, Control, and the Internal Split
The content explores the duality of self-reliance and codependency, particularly in IEC (Inconsistent Emotional Care) environments. It highlights how individuals may excel in managing others’ emotions while neglecting their own needs, creating a cycle of exhaustion. Breaking this pattern involves embracing vulnerability and allowing genuine support from others, fostering deeper…
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IEC-Informed Self-Reliance: When Strength Becomes a Barrier to Connection
The post explores the complex nature of self-reliance formed in environments marked by inconsistent emotional support. While this self-sufficiency fosters resourcefulness and resilience, it concurrently limits our ability to rely on others. The author emphasizes the necessity of connection, arguing that true strength lies in balancing independence with openness to…
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Why You Keep Repeating the Patterns
By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author There’s a moment in this work where awareness shifts. What You Learned Before You Had Words For It The shift starts out quiet and subtle at first. But it’s the spark of awareness that opens the door…
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The Masked Child: How IEC Environments Teach Us to Hide and What It Costs
By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author There’s a particular kind of loneliness that comes from not knowing who you are.Not the loneliness of being alone in a room. The loneliness of being in a room full of people (ncluding the people who raised…
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Understanding the Spectrum of Inconsistent Emotional Connection: From Subtle Withdrawal to Extreme Dysfunction
By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author A Note on Scope and Intention: Before going further, it’s important to be clear about what this is- and what it isn’t.This framework is not about blame.It’s not about labeling parents as “bad.”And it’s not meant to…