The Inner Reign

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  • What If Substance Use Is An Attempt To Regulate A Dysregulated Nervous System?

    By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author Most of us reached for something to change how we felt long before we understood what we were actually feeling. That distinction matters far more than we’ve been taught to believe. Because the conversation around substance use (in our culture, in most… Read more

  • Why we repeat relational patterns (even when we know better)

    I didn’t repeat relational patterns because I was flawed or dumb. I repeated them because I didn’t know what I was looking at. And more than that- I didn’t understand that what I was feeling was information. This is the part that took me the longest to see clearly. Because my story growing up didn’t… Read more

  • Breaking the Cycle: Why Healing Yourself Still Matters in a Broken World

    By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author Do Your Choices Matter, or Not? At some point, this comes down to a simple question:Do our actions and behaviors actually matter? There’s a worldview that says the world is too broken, too corrupt, too far gone for individual actions to mean… Read more

  • The Body Knows: Interoception, IEC Environments, and Learning to Listen From the Inside Out

    The Body Knows: Interoception, IEC Environments, and Learning to Listen From the Inside Out

    By Lacey NelsonFounder of The Inner Reign | Creator of IECIBAbout the author Interoception is our ability to feel what’s happening within our own body- something many of us have learned to tune out without realizing it I was sitting with my dog the other day, holding him against my chest while he was on… Read more

  • The Other Side of IEC: Codependency, Control, and the Internal Split

    The content explores the duality of self-reliance and codependency, particularly in IEC (Inconsistent Emotional Care) environments. It highlights how individuals may excel in managing others’ emotions while neglecting their own needs, creating a cycle of exhaustion. Breaking this pattern involves embracing vulnerability and allowing genuine support from others, fostering deeper connections. Read more

  • IEC-Informed Self-Reliance: When Strength Becomes a Barrier to Connection

    The post explores the complex nature of self-reliance formed in environments marked by inconsistent emotional support. While this self-sufficiency fosters resourcefulness and resilience, it concurrently limits our ability to rely on others. The author emphasizes the necessity of connection, arguing that true strength lies in balancing independence with openness to relational support. Read more